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Saturday, January 27th, 2007
1:52 pm
Yep, this is why this community is here.
I have never quite figured out why it's OK to have snide remarks about people giving birth at home and how many children and moms die there (you know, of the people you talk to who can only recall bad things happening), but people NEVER, EVER say it's dangerous to give birth in a hospital even if they've known of fatalities or birth injuries happening there.

The doctor I delivered with is no longer doing homebirths. As much as I'd love to do another one, (if I do another one), I don't know how easy it would be to convince my husband to go with a midwife or some other alternative. Honestly, I'm hoping for a 30 minute labor that ends in me having the kid in the bathroom or something.

I really hate hospitals.
Monday, December 18th, 2006
10:59 am
Help us save homebirth in New York State
Hello ladies...

I wanted to let everyone know about a new group we've started in the southern tier of New York (Binghamton), to work toward protecting our right to have midwife-assisted homebirths. We have some screwy legislation that is beginning to affect our midwives' ability to practice legally in this state, and we want to change the laws. We're a new but very active and enthusiastic group of mamas and midwives who are banding together to do what we can. If you're in New York State and are interested in supporting us or even being a resource for us, please join our yahoo group and join in the discussion.

You can find the yahoo group here: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/HomebirthersofNY/, and our website (in the works!) here: http://homebirth.mamaoptions.com/

Thank you!
Tuesday, November 7th, 2006
2:42 am
Birth Ecology Project
Hello! I want to let you all know about The Birth Ecology Project at http://www.birthecology.org - this is a wonderful resource for parents, expecting families, doulas, midwives, and birth advocates. The Birth Ecology Project advocates for a peaceful world through gentle birth and parenting. There is an active online journal with daily postings of articles, essays, stories and more about natural birth and parenting. Check it out! http://www.birthecology.org
Sunday, June 18th, 2006
1:28 pm
Mamarevolution.com was started in early winter 2004 by four young mamas who needed a place where they belonged. Too young and alternative for babycenter and too old for the teen based online communities, they struck out to make a home for mamas who just didn’t fit in anywhere else. After a few nights of brainstorming and women sharing their talents, Mamarevolution.com was born.

Mamarevolution is a pro-choice, feminist community who seeks to support, encourage and educate young women and mothers from all backgrounds and cultures. Our goal is to provide the community and support that is so desperately needed as we fight for our rights as parents and women, and to defeat the social stereotypes that surround young or alternative parents.

While we promote breastfeeding and natural parenting, we recognize that each family is unique and has their own set of needs and customs. We respect and support all families and their allies in their quest to raise strong, positive and socially conscious children.
Wednesday, March 15th, 2006
7:15 pm
I'm a nebie!
Greetings to all!

I am new to this community and I wanted to introduce myself. I am 26, married and a teacher. My husband and I are planning to start our family in the next year or so...so I am doing as much research as humanly possible until then. :)
I am determined NOT to have my baby in a hospital barring a serious emergency, and I am reseraching a home birth. So far, hubby is on board with everthing that I want as long as it's "safe". I assured him, that based on the statistics I've read, it's safer to have your baby almost anywhere BUT a hospital. I'll settle for a birthing center...but I feel very comfortable with the idea of only a certified midwife and my loved one's present.
I work with children and have allowed myself to get completely engulfed by the modern mother's world. I want to do as much leg work as possible before I am stressed with actually being pregnant!
I live in New York (Long Island) for the time being, so I'm open to any info anyone might have that could help me in my quest.
I'm looking forward to reading and sharing with you all!

Current Mood: content
Friday, November 11th, 2005
6:35 am
Hello all, this is something that I just recieved from another list, and am passing it along because I believe it is vitally important!!! Please read all the way to the end......

Hello Birth People,

You have all probably heard of Dr. Tom Brewer and his important work in prenatal nutrition. He has devoted his life to spreading the word that excellent nutrition during pregnancy prevents MTLP (toxemia), pre-eclampsia, placental abruption, pre-term labor and other complications. He has worked tirelessly, but unfortunately mostly fruitlessly, to get the medical establishment to understand the importance of protein, salt, and other nutrients during pregnancy.

Dr. Brewer is now elderly and not in the best of health. His son tells me that he has been in poor spirits and depressed that his message has not been accepted as truth by the birth community.

So I’m asking that if you have been affected by his work, if you use his nutrition information to help clients, or have followed his advice in your own pregnancies, please drop him a short thank you note or message of appreciation. I think that knowing how many moms and babies he has helped would cheer him up; and it would let him know that his life’s work was not in vain to hear how many midwives, childbirth educators, parents, and others involved in birth, believe in his ideas.

He is a national treasure, and he may not be around much longer.

> Hello Everyone,
> The list has been awfully quiet. I hate to break the
> silence with sad
> news, but it seems Dr. Tom Brewer won't be with us
> much longer. His
> health has been declining this year, and just this
> past weekend he had a
> medical incident which caused his daughter to
> annouce to family and
> friends that if they want to see him, they should do
> so this week. He
> could have a major event and be gone quickly, or he
> could have several
> minor events and be like this for days, months. He
> is lucid and still
> feisty enough to sign out of the hospital AMA, but
> his time on earth is
> short. Please take time NOW to write him a note of
> appreciation for all
> he has done, and assure him that his work will be
> carried on. Write to
> him at his daughter's address. He is no longer at
> his apartment.
> Tom Brewer, M. D.
> c/o Ms. Cornelia Brewer
> 3 South Willard Street
> Apt. 6
> Burlington, VT 05401
> PLEASE Forward this to every childbirth and
> parenting list you are on.
> Modify it if you're sending to a group who may now
> know his work, so
> they can be aware that there is hope for
> preeclampsia and toxemia!! Many
> still do not know. Let's be sure his last days are
> filled with the
> knowledge that he is loved and appreciated.

Current Mood: sad
Sunday, October 30th, 2005
3:57 pm
A note from your friendly mod
Yes, we are still here, and I'd love to get going with the community again. Birth stories and news articles are always welcomed and encouraged. Feel free to introduce yourself! :)

So, I'm here to tell you of an incident I had last night. My husband made friends with a couple with two kids. We were all sitting in the living room and my husband was playing guitar. My son (who is 16 months today) needed to nurse, and so I began nursing him. We cleared the room, and one of the women (the couple had a friend over) said very audibly, but not directly to me, "Oh, he's still nursing?" (You nursing moms know the tone.)

Then later on at dinner, the neighbor was admiring Daschel and my husband says, "Yes, we had him at home." She then says to me, "On purpose? Weren't you afraid?" Then she proceeds to tell a story about her good friend the anesthesiologist for a maternity ward. *insert eye roll here* I don't know something about drugs and twins and how one of the twins was lost because there was only enough medicine for one twin. (I totally didn't get what her point was.)

Anyway, in the car, I tell my husband, "I am very happy that you are immensely proud of our decision to have Daschel at home, but when people make comments like that about breastfeeding an "older child", they usually aren't going to like homebirth stories. You either have to resign yourself to saying nothing and nodding politely or putting yourself up for an all night fight."

It took so long for my husband to appreciate my decision, and I'm thrilled that he did. We were extremely afraid of having a c-section as Daschel was transverse (side-lying) until about 38 weeks. We sought out an acupunturist to administer moxibustion which I believe was at least a contributing factor to him turning. When it was over, people were amazed that I lived through it, like an amazing magical trick where the woman gets sawed in half.

The thing of birth is, there is no trick at all. This is just the way it's meant to be in most cases. :)
Sunday, October 9th, 2005
11:01 am
Hi there! My husband and I just found out we're pregnant w/ baby #2. My older son, Liam (now 5), was born in a local hospital and the experience was HORRIBLE! We're considering homebirth for this one, but not sure how to get started. We live in GA where it's not exactly "legal" (it's not illegal to deliver at home, but there are no certifications for midwifery and it's illegal to practice in-state w/o in-state certifications -- nice way to get around that one, huh?). How do we find a midwife? How do we convince our insurance to help us with the costs? Do we see a "normal" doctor, too, in case we do have to be admitted to a hospital? I'm 100% committed to a natural birth!

Current Mood: confused
Monday, September 19th, 2005
8:40 am
Wednesday, June 1st, 2005
10:58 pm
Why a homebirth?

For a few reasons. I was so panicked and scared when I had my son. I hated that I had no control, that a man I barely knew screamed at me to push NOW instead of letting me and my body know when to push. I hated feeling as though I was sick, when in reality, I was going through something amazing that women all through history have been doing. I didn't need to be poked and prodded and talked about.

I felt like I had no say as to how my little one came into this world. And that is not something I will do again. When I found out I was pregnant, I made three promises to my child. That I would love Niblet no matter what. That I would care for and protect this baby, and that he or she would be enclosed in love and not have a childhood like mine.

I would be, in my opinion, breaking that promise if the first thing she saw was bright lights and some man in a mask. The first thing she heard was screaming and rushed voices. The first human touch she would encounter are the hands of a hurried doctor, eager to perform tests.

I want my child born in my room, either in a birthing bath or my own bed. I want him or her to be caught by a midwife who has delivered and soothed a hundred babies. I want hushed, loving voices to greet her, I want her cleaned and placed where she belongs. On me, not under a heat lamp like a bunch of french fries.

I want to take back birth, in my own way. I want to push when I need to push, scream if I need to scream, say what I need to say, I want to smell peppermint and rose oil, I want the ones I love by my side, holding my hands. I want to experience the entire thing, because what I'm doing isn't medical. It's magic. I'm giving life to someone that I held inside myself for nine months. I'm pushing and with each push, I bring a child closer to this world.

I will, of course, be safe. A midwife that has had years of experience, a fast route to the hospital if anything does go wrong, my Aunt (who helped deliver my son) will be there, and above all, I'll be in my element. Able to realize if I'm not okay.

I just feel as though it's something I must do.
Thursday, May 12th, 2005
12:46 pm
Trust Birth LJ Community!
I just opened a new community for anyone to join. Its a trust birth community and I hope that by spreading the word about trust birth, more and more women will grow unafraid of birth, and remember that they already trust it. I appologize if this seems spammy, but its for a good cause. Come on over if you trust birth! (and even if you dont think you do...yet) ;)

Trust Birth

Current Mood: accomplished
Friday, May 6th, 2005
5:09 pm
I saw this on one of my lists...I loved it enough to pass along.

Imagine you are that woman living in the jungle. She has no clocks,
only seasons. She knows the stars and the tides, but they are a part
of her more than a conscious thought.

Her baby grows within her without conscious thought. The baby has
zero concept of time. Is it time to grow a toenail? Time for that
30th hair on my head? It just happens.

Our jungle (or desert or forest or Amish) woman lives her life. She
pays passing notice to the increased weight on her joints, the
frequency to pee, but she lives her life. She harvests the food, or
makes the bowls, or cleans the hut, or builds the house, or skins
the animals or cleans the clothes in the river with her other
sisters, pregnant and not. She does not have the luxury of sitting
still and wondering about her body.

Contractions touch her body, but things need to be done. She knows
from experience that when her labor is enough to slow her down, then
it will be time to seclude herself. No one in the tribe even has a
word for "Braxton-Hicks Contractions" or "prodromal labor" because
the women have too much to do to stop and think about twinges
(strong or not). The elders steal quick glances as she leans over
again and again as she hangs the clothes to dry, but no one mentions
anything; the woman has enough... enough inside herself to Do this
work. And they all believe.

Once labor begins, depending on the culture, she might labor alone
or with another woman or several women in attendance. Labor knows no
time. There is no watch. No clock ticking on the wall. No one
says, "you've been 4 centimeters for 6 hours now, time for pitocin."
Labor is allowed to unfold in its own way. The women around her
merely witness, remind her of her strength, press cold cloths to her
face and hot ones to her lower back. And they all believe.

Pushing, the same thing... no clocks timing how long to push... that
counting to 10 three times for each push would seem absurd to our
jungle woman! She pushes when she feels it. No one touches her
cervix to feel if she is "complete." She *is* complete. Without
anyone checking anything. Her completeness is simply a part of her

When I was nursing Tristan at night, I nearly went bonkers because
of how often he wanted (needed) to nurse. I would grind my teeth as
I saw that he had "just nursed" 45 minutes earlier... that now I was
awake for longer than I had been asleep... and that bred anger and

When Meggie was born, I learned to cover the clock... or, better
yet... remove it from the room. When she wanted to nurse, I was
there, present, nursing my baby who, in the wilds of the world,
would have clung to me for survival. It is the instinct she was born

That same survival place that caused her to grow to health and
wholeness... that didn't trigger labor until her lungs were fully
ready to be born... that didn't know that I was tired when she was
ready (and didn't care)... that I was there to serve her. My body,
in pregnancy and in nursing... and eventual continuous mothering...
I was her complete servant. She didn't give one whit about time.

I encourage women to let go of time. Grow your babies. Feel those
tightenings. Embrace the beauty of your heartburn, your frequent
peeing, your insomnia, your separated pubic bones, your weight
gain... and your baby's movements under your flesh, your child's
inner hiccups, your 100% safe-from-the-difficulties-of-this-world

Time, as trite as it sounds, is so fleeting. I pine for those aches
and pains. My youngest is now 19 years old. I am sorry for wishing
those moments of difficulty away. I speak so others might take a
deep and grounding breath, say a prayer or incantation if that is
your way, and stay in the moment with your child. It is the only
time ever you two will be alone.

As your baby grows without guidance and conscious thought, so too,
begins labor and birth.

And we all believe.

Barb Herrera
Friday, April 1st, 2005
10:05 am
We met with the homebirth midwife last week and she agreed to take us on! I feel like I can relax now.

She was really wonderful and their statistics were great: VBAC success rate of 85-90%, hospital transfer of 6%, c-section rate of 3% and <1% episiotomy.

Now I just need to get my reimbursement from the birth center. The homebirth will only be $1500, and I should get around $800 back from the birth center. I might even be able to get my insurance to cover 70% as out of network.

At any rate, I'm excited and relieved and very much looking forward to the birth. :)

26 wks 5 days

xposted to a couple places
Friday, March 18th, 2005
8:46 am
this is so great.

The Trust Birth Initiative is an old/new concept in the birth field.
Women talking to women about birth.
Not another expert, not another class.
Discussion/support groups.
Usually in leader’s home, but maybe in a library or church nursery or
Community center.
One night a month.
As a leader there will be some expense and some commitment
As far as time and resources.
No charge to attend meetings but there is always the
Option to join TBI as a supporting member.
No middle of the road rhetoric.
All about BIRTH TRUTH.
We want leaders who are are fed up with what is
Happening to women and babies and fired up enough to make
A significant difference in the future of families.
We want leaders who may or may not be childbirth
Experts, but women who love and trust birth.
We want leaders with a heart for birth and the courage
To tell the truth about it.
Every woman deserves the right to hear the truth about birth.
We are not concerned with being politically correct.
We don’t lie to women about what may or may not
Happen if they follow a formula or a plan.
We won’t give them the idea that they can have the birth they want
If they go to the hospital with their doula and a birth plan in hand.
We tell the truth-- that interference with birth starts the minute she
Leaves her home and that the minute she is in the hospital she
Is no longer in charge.
Birth should not be a time in a woman’s life when she has to FIGHT
For anything. Birth should not be a battlefield.
We tell the truth—women know how to give birth. They may not
KNOW that they do, but they do.
We tell the truth—mothers are not the enemy of their babies and babies are
Not going to destroy their mothers in birth. Mothers and babies are
Symbiotic units and if left alone would know what to do.
Birth is not crisis management; it is not a rescue mission to relieve the
Mother of the child and the child of the mother. It is not an emergency.
Birth is safe. Interference with birth is risky.
Women and their Babies are being abused in the name of “safety”
There are too many surgical births, too many epidurals, too many episiotomies,
Too many inductions, too much monitoring and managing;
Women are being scared and bullied and manipulated.
Women are being robbed experience of giving birth; babies are being robbed of a peaceful
Environment in which to be born.
In most cases, having a baby would be as natural as making a baby,
If we let it alone.
Natural, normal is not the same as easy and painless and
We acknowledge that there is pain for almost every woman
But we know that women live through the pain.
We also acknowledge that birth is not always without risk, but
We believe that life is not without risk.
There are a lot of things more risky than birth.
Birth is not the act of rescuing a baby or a mother from death, yet that
Is the prevalent attitude about birth.
Parents are qualified to become informed about their choices and can
make the decision to make all the decisions.
We encourage women to stop giving their authority away
And recognize that they are their own authority--
Midwives, doulas, doctors, childbirth educators are paid consultants.
Too many women have been told too many lies.
Too many women have lost something they don’t even know they had.
We want to tell the truth and tell the truth and tell the truth until
Women find it in themselves again.

Birth Truth will lead to Birth Trust.

Wednesday, January 12th, 2005
1:33 pm
Gestational Diabetes?
Hello All,

I'm a 36 year old mother of a 14 year old, at 32 weeks gestation with my second child (due March 13th).

On New Years Eve (29 weeks) I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. I have a wonderful midwife and have been planning
and hoping for a home birth. We've tried to control my blood sugar with diet & exercise, but it's apparently not enough. I'm seeing an endocrinologist tomorrow about starting on glucophage or insulin.

Have any of you ladies had experience with this condition? And if so, are there any who did and homebirthed?
Thursday, January 6th, 2005
8:38 am
I hope it's okay to post this here. Accept my apologies if it is not.

I just wanted to let everyone here know that I started a study group for homebirth midwives and students called hmbirthmidwives (I don't know how to do the fancy links). Midwives and midwifery students are welcome to join, just request a membership. Thanks!
Sunday, January 2nd, 2005
9:29 am
VBAC article
My husband actually found this for me!

Thursday, December 23rd, 2004
8:17 pm
12:16 am
EDD Accuracy?
So, somewhere online I think I saw a place that had a more accurate way of telling a woman her estimated date of delivery based on things like cycle length, and ovulation day...or something. Anyone know what I'm talking about? I ask, because my cycle is in a regular pattern now and I have a shorter than average (26 day) cycle. I am interested in looking into due dates for women with short cycles. No, I'm not pregnant. Yet. *snicker*

x-posted several places
Monday, December 20th, 2004
1:48 pm
does anyone have a link to a good list of things one should have for a homebirth? or suggestions for stuff I might want to have around? I'm due in early march and starting to think about gathering supplies.
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